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Steve Carr, an accomplished well-being and mental health speaker, holds qualifications in various aspects of mental health, including youth and adult mental health first aid, life coaching, and counselling. He is also among a select few suicide first aid tutors in the entire UK, making him highly sought after.
Having faced numerous profound personal challenges such as loss, homelessness, and suicide, Steve embarked on a journey to understand why both he and others had been failed by the system. He delved into the reasons behind men’s reluctance to seek help and committed himself to effecting positive change in this regard.
The spotlight on men’s mental health has never been brighter, with celebrities and royals bringing attention to one of the most prominent health issues of our time. However, while the emphasis has primarily been on encouraging men to open up, what measures are being taken to equip individuals when someone reaches out to them for support? Steve’s work is deeply rooted in his personal experiences of living with mental health challenges, navigating mental illness, and, most importantly, discovering how to maintain well-being and thrive following a diagnosis.
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00:00:18:17 – 00:00:40:00
Steve Carr
Yes, certainly. Well, my journey into mental health and suicide prevention started six years ago. That actually started a lot longer than that ago. But I came into the world of mental health, first aid and suicide prevention six years ago. This is when I experienced, say, mental health breakdown in the workplace. Now, sadly, at the time there was no mental health first aiders.
00:00:40:00 – 00:00:53:21
Steve Carr
There’s nobody that really understood anything about suicide prevention, which stopped me from being able to talk to my employees about what was really going on. And so I visited my GP and I was signed off work with work related stress.
And I had a month out.
00:00:55:09 – 00:01:17:08
Steve Carr
And then on my return back to work, I was invited into a meeting by the organization who placed me on a performance improvement plan. Now this was a way of monitoring my performance because obviously I couldn’t tell them it was mental health related. I mean, they wouldn’t understand. And so little after that, was about a month after that, I was managed out of the business.
00:01:17:08 – 00:01:24:16
Steve Carr
In hindsight, it was the right thing at the time to do, just quite simply because they didn’t know it’s mental health related.
Within that month.
That very same month that my employment had come to an end, I had attempted to end my life by suicide multiple times before I went back to the GP to ask for further help.
00:01:45:18 – 00:02:21:08
Steve Carr
Yeah, absolutely. We can see the tide is changing and just this week we’ve been informed that one in 56 people now have been trained in some form of mental health education within the United Kingdom. But sadly, still only 13% of line managers have been taught anything about mental health or suicide prevention in the first place. So what we need to be looking at is having more managers trained and recognized in the signs, but also psychological safety in the workplace for people to be able to speak openly about their mental health without fear of repercussions or stigma or even resignation.
00:02:33:24 – 00:02:57:10
Steve Carr
Yeah, well, it’s it was quite a story and it dates all the way back to 1991. And sadly, this was when my brother was killed in a car accident by a drunk driver. And from that point, going forwards, I had many events occurring in my life that I couldn’t address. And it was at this point in 2014 when I experienced the breakdown that I thought, you know what?
00:02:57:10 – 00:03:16:24
Steve Carr
I need to go and do something to explore what other avenues are available for people like me to access support and help. So after being given a diagnosis of extreme poor mental health, and mental illness, I decided to walk the entire length of Britain in recovery whilst raising awareness for mental health and homelessness.
00:03:26:10 – 00:03:47:16
Steve Carr
So the main topics during my walk and the reason why I got into speaking and telling this story was because it was extremely difficult for males and for men in particular to be able to open up and tell their story. So what I did with my journey was I went to literally every newspaper that I could, local newspaper, BBC Television, ITV News, to tell my story.
00:03:47:16 – 00:04:12:02
Steve Carr
So I wanted as many people to know about this. Even though I’d been given a diagnosis, I was experiencing poor mental health and mental illness, recovery was highly likely and possible, and I wanted to show other people to tell other people this story of recovery. So for me, what I tend to tell what I talk about within my talks is homelessness, addiction, mental health and suicide.
00:04:17:06 – 00:04:38:06
Steve Carr
What I love most about this is saying to other people that asking for help isn’t a weakness, and that by talking about our mental health, it doesn’t mean that we’re any different to anybody else and that anybody can experience mental health or poor mental health at any point. So it’s leaving them with the message that recovery is highly likely and extremely possible.
00:04:46:14 – 00:05:08:02
Steve Carr
So what we look at within organizations is policy change, because what I found when I was working within the NHS shortly after is that they have some wonderful policies, but people were not accessing the support that was needed. So we went about looking at how people could actually go and how we could change policy, but also how people could access the help.
00:05:22:20 – 00:05:50:16
Steve Carr
Yeah, absolutely. What I’ve found is when I deliver the talks is more people then afterwards will approach me about looking at policy, but also how do we implement an emotional wellbeing and mental health policy and suicide prevention policy within the organization. So for me, it’s not about just delivering the talk, it’s how can those organizations move forward, support their people and create a psychological safety, a safe workplace for all people that are working within the organization.
00:06:13:12 – 00:06:33:12
Steve Carr
Sure. Well, I speak with the client, first of all, and find out what their pain points are. And then we work around creating the story and creating that, what I’m going to say within the talk at that point. So I make sure that we’re covering all the pain points and what people want to hear within the talks. So it could be anything from resilience to bouncing back.
00:06:33:12 – 00:06:42:17
Steve Carr
It could be around mental health or it could even be around suicide prevention. So it’s really understanding the client’s needs before we come and deliver it. Before I come and deliver the talk.
00:06:51:12 – 00:07:21:06
Steve Carr
Yeah, absolutely. One of the most remarkable and memorable, though, was for Legal in General. I was delivering a talk with Dame Kelly Holmes and Kirsty Gallagher, and I just remember talking about my story and said that it’s never a weakness to ask for help, that it’s a strength. But it was so amazing to have these celebrities and, you know, rubbing shoulders with these celebrities, but leaving this impact and this impression and knowing that it’s never a weakness to ask for help.